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“Hate that felt like a prop”

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Based on the eloquence of her blog entry, I have a new writer to add to my list.

Someone on Jezebel linked to a blog by author Libba Bray. I’ve heard raves about her books, and even looked at them in the bookstore, but never actually taken one to the check-out. I should change that, and soon.

It’s easy and understandable to get mad about Proposition 8, and mad about all the crap that a gay person gets for wanting to call the one they love their spouse. Bray is clearly upset, as well, although she expresses it very eloquently and thoughtfully. Bray’s father was kicked out of the military for being gay, and then had to hide his orientation from the church body that employed him. He came out to his family when Bray was 14:

From that moment on, I, too, felt that I had two lives. In one, I lived in a small, religious and conservative Texas town and went to high school and listened to people spout hate that felt like a prop, like something that had been placed in their hands and so they waved it around because they didn’t know if it was okay to put it down somewhere. In the other life, I sometimes spent weekends in Dallas with my father and his lover, John. I took in the shops of Oak Lawn, Dallas’s gay district, went to see the Turtle Creek Chorale men’s chorus perform, was introduced to the work of Charles Busch, attended small chip-and-dip parties attended by “aunts” and “uncles” (We Are Family) where I got tips on my running technique from the lesbians and talked theatre with gay men. (Sorry if that hits your stereotyping button, but I’m just reporting here.

“Hate that felt like a prop.” My God, I want someone to give her an award for that description alone, because it’s excellent. Like her, I grew up in a small Texas town — although I can’t find out which one she lived in, and would really like to, because the instant I hear “Small Texas town,” my nosy instincts kick in and I want to be able to say, “You grew up in ____? I grew up in _______ , a few (minutes, hours, days) from there!”

She also references the movie Milk, namely the scene where Harvey Milk gets a call from a suicidal gay teen and tells him, “There is nothing wrong with you.” It’s a wonderful thing to hear, especially compared to the messages of “Something is wrong with you” that so many GLBT people get, be it implicit or otherwise. The stick-figure “One man plus one woman equals marriage” signs offend me, and I’m straight. To gay people, it’s basically saying, “You’re wrong, dude. Your lifestyle is wrong and you can’t do math.” Or when I hear someone opine that, “I don’t think God makes mistakes” when the topic of transgender people comes up. In other words, it’s all in your head, transgender person. Can’t you just get over it?

One comfort is that our side isn’t going to have to be the one that “gets over it.” Much of the younger generation really doesn’t think anything is wrong with gay people (although I’m a bit ashamed to say in my case, it took me until my late teens/college to figure out my church was wrong). Even the self-identified Republican who governs California has said gay marriage is going to be a (permanent) reality at some point.

It’s coming. I would say it can’t come a moment too soon, but I’m not one of the people who has to hope either the electorate or the courts will give me what should be mine regardless.

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Pageant Queen Thinks Gays Are Icky

Eric Jamison/Associated Press

Eric Jamison/Associated Press

So on Sunday night, Miss White Anglo Saxton ProtestantUSA was crowned in Las Vegas. Winning was Miss North Carolina.

But the AP notes that the really interesting moment was when runner-up Miss California Carrie Prejean (above right) was asked her thoughts on gay marriage. Per the AP:

“We live in a land where you can choose same-sex marriage or opposite marriage,” Prejean said. “And you know what, I think in my country, in my family, I think that I believe that a marriage should be between a man and a woman. No offense to anybody out there, but that’s how I was raised.”

Some in the audience cheered, others booed. The answer sparked a shouting match in the lobby after the show.

“It’s ugly,” said Scott Ihrig, a gay man, who attended the pageant with his partner. “I think it’s ridiculous that she got first runner-up. That is not the value of 95 percent of the people in this audience. Look around this audience and tell me how many gay men there are.”

Charmaine Koonce, the mother of Miss New Mexico USA Bianca Matamoros-Koonce, argued back.

“In the Bible it says marriage is between Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve!”

Koonce is right, you know. If you can rhyme and mention the Bible, then you are guaranteed to win every argument. If it’s in the Bible, then that ain’t libel. See?

And of course lots of people are raised to believe that hetorosexuality is the only option; many of them are gay anyway because guess what? The Bible can’t usurp how you’re hard-wired from birth.

And you can’t “choose” between same-sex or opposite sex unless you live in Vermont, Iowa, Massachusetts or Connecticut. People like Miss California voted to take that right away from gays in The Golden State.

I wonder if Prejean’s response had any part in Miss California being the runner-up instead of winner winner Lean Cuisine chicken dinner. I think it may have-for crying out loud, Perez Hilton was one of the judges. Miss California is doomed to have a semen dribble added to her photo now and forever.

No, I didn’t watch the show. I doubt many people did-even Miss America is struggling for relevancy. Pageants are generally not ahead of the curve on social issues. I vividly remember being 12 or 13, maybe younger, and seeing Miss Oklahoma tell the world she would advocate for saving sex for marriage if she won. I don’t believe she did.

Miss California may not have won, but I believe the makeup people voted her Most Irony-Free. Chica, you’re in a pageant. You get paid to look good. Don’t piss off the gays. And beware of that gay storm coming, as well:

Charmaine Koonce, the mother of Miss New Mexico USA Bianca Matamoros-Koonce, argued back.

“In the Bible it says marriage is between Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve!”

Koonce is right, you know. If you can rhyme and mention the Bible, then you are guaranteed to win every argument. If it’s in the Bible, then that ain’t libel. See?

And of course lots of people are raised to believe that hetorosexuality is the only option; many of them are gay anyway because guess what? The Bible can’t usurp how you’re hard-wired from birth.

And you can’t “choose” between same-sex or opposite sex unless you live in Vermont, Iowa, Massachusetts or Connecticut. People like Miss California voted to take that right away from gays in The Golden State.

I wonder if Prejean’s response had any part in Miss California being the runner-up instead of winner winner Lean Cuisine chicken dinner. I think it may have-for crying out loud, Perez Hilton was one of the judges. Miss California is doomed to have a semen dribble added to her photo now and forever.

No, I didn’t watch the show. I doubt many people did-even Miss America is struggling for relevancy. Pageants are generally not ahead of the curve on social issues. I vividly remember being 12 or 13, maybe younger, and seeing Miss Oklahoma tell the world she would advocate for saving sex for marriage if she won. I don’t believe she did.

Miss California may not have won, but I believe the makeup people voted her Most Irony-Free. Chica, you’re in a pageant. You get paid to look good. Don’t piss off the gays. And beware of that gay storm coming, as well:

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La. Announces Plan to Bar Gays From Adopting Pets

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BATON ROUGE — Louisiana Gov. Bobby Jindal today urged support of a bill that would ban gays, lesbians and bicurious-shoe wearers from adopting cats, dogs and other pets.

“The only way to stop the homosexual agenda is to do this,” Jindal said at a press conference. “Dogs and cats do better in a home with a mom and a dad. It’s a proven scientific fact that Adam and Eve are better for Fluffy than Adam and Steve.”

Republican State Rep. Phil McDaven authored the bill currently under consideration by a legislative committee.

“It’s a slippery slope, and the moral fiber of America cannot afford to degrade any further,” McDaven said. “First Susan and her partner want to adopt a cat. Then they want to have sex with the cat. Then they want to take the cat with them on their pedophile picnic expeditions. Then they want to enter into plural marriages with the cat, a dog, and two gerbils.”

Under the proposed law, anyone suspecting of possessing a pet while being gay will be subject to a raid by local police. Evidence taken from residences will be used to determine if the pet-owner is gay, straight or just pathetically sad and alone to the point where they may as well be asexual.

The proposal worries Monroe resident Shelly Meredith, 31.

“I DVR Rachel Maddow’s show, and my iTunes library is full of music by people like Tegan and Sara and The Indigo Girls,” said Meredith, who identifies as heterosexual. “Plus, I have a large poster of Tina Fey on my wall. This isn’t going to bode well for people like me. Just last week, my mom asked me if I was sure I wasn’t gay.”

In response to Meredith’s concerns, McDaven said he plans to amend the bill so that people like her could be charged with possession of lesbian paraphernalia.

Bisexual people aren’t addressed in the bill, as Jindal previously issued a proclaiming declaring that bisexual people just need to stop being so greedy and pick one or the other.

The bill is expected to be voted on by the legislative panel as soon as one of its members, Republican Rep. Barry Pearl, returns from a trip to the men’s room.

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